…….and destroys the family.
The Headline in today’s Wall Street Journal, “Abuse Case Sparks a Clash Over Limits of Tough Parenting”, did not particularly catch my attention, much less my anger. It suggested nothing about imprisonment. It couldn’t be anything about parents getting their kids high on the illicit drug de jour. That is so common it doesn’t even qualify as abuse anymore in any of our 57 states…(the ones visited by Barack Hussein Obama’s by his count.)
I began to read the article. “Salem Oregon” was the state of the news.
On July 20, 2009 a 14 year old boy had called 911 and “Oregon authorities, alerting them to a terrible case of child abuse…..”
“He reported that his parents regularly beat him and several of his six siblings”, saying his parents “struck them with wires, branches and belts for wearing makeup and getting a fake tattoo. Police quickly arrested Oleksandr and Lyudmila Kozlov and placed the children, who ranged in age from newborn to 15 years, into foster care.
The couple was eventually SENTENCED TO SEVEN YEARS IN PRISON AND LATER STRIPPED OF MOST PARENTAL RIGHTS. (emphasis mine).
That got my attention and I am still angry at what I read. It seems there is a large tightly knit Ukrainian Baptist community near Salem, capital city of doctrinaire, pompously leftwing ‘tolerant’ Oregon. These are relatively recent immigrants from the old Soviet Union and many were outraged at the arrest.
“Many of these supporters, Russian-born Christians like the Kozlovs themselves, believed the parents were disciplining their chi8ldren according to Biblical law.”
“Oregon is now home to about 150,000 evangelical Christians from the former Soviet Union. They were able to emigrate to the U.S. under the same law designed to help Soviet Jews escape religious persecution.”
These poor Christians had dared to cross the Atlantic to escape religious persecution an entry accorded the Jews. The Jews had an advantage. Those who emigrated were already indoctrinated into the secular world of the good old USSR. How lucky they were not to be Christians settling in a Progressive-Marxist state such as Oregon.
I fact, as it turned out, most of the Jewish refugees fleeing the Soviet Union now vote conservative in these United States. The many I have met, I love dearly. They knew Marxism when they saw and lived in it. They have not forgotten. Most cannot understand how Americans can be so stupid to vote Marxists into office.
I don’t think there are many Jewish immigrants from the Soviet Union living in Oregon. But there is a large and wonderful community here in the Twin Cities.
The Kozlovs came to the United States in 2003.
As many of my friends know, I am not fond of this Soviet State which American Progressives seem to have in store for the United States of America. I don’t like Barack Hussein Obama’s projected future of a rich and powerful government to rule over a poverty sharing population, the inevitable Marxist future for any State whose Progressive bureaucrats ’progress’ long enough. Mr. Obama promises a Progressive State for all ‘fifty seven states’ he visited during his 2008 presidential campaign. We shall then all be positioned to the left of Oregon…..
In October 1990 I spent almost the month in the Ukraine. The horror of 7 decades of the Union of Soviet Socialist Republics was becoming ‘so yesterday’. I was invited to join a group of very, very conservative American Baptists from the Twin Cities who had collected money and medicines for victim of the Chernobyl nuclear disaster near Kiev in 1986. That I was a secularist didn’t matter to these conservative Christians. They needed help with the language.
We visited the Anabaptist community in Rovno in the western Ukraine. I don’t know if the Rovno Anabaptist parents were so strict that they used a belt to whip their children. I do know that these Rovno children were among the most beautiful in appearance and behavior I had ever seen in my life.
However, I have more than a passing interest in this travesty Oregon has perpetrated against this family.
I read nothing in this Wall Street Journal’s accounting of parental punishment that as a child till age fourteen, I had not experienced from my own bi-polar Mother. I lived in the city. I bore welts from time to time from belts and sticks. A wire rug beater was used once when I was about ten. My Dad was always working. He had a 60 hour work week. No sexual abuse of any kind, but before I began grade school there were psychological cruelties which I have never forgotten.
What I have to comment on has nothing to do with any support I have for parents being ‘cruel’ to children. I oppose cruelty. It goes with being a conservative. Yet, I think I would have loved to have had me as a Dad…..yet one shouldn’t wish for what one doesn’t know for certain, My own Dad was distant from me, but always a perfect gentleman who would never accept any conversation regarding my mother. Beyond this he was a fine man who had a world of friends who really loved him and he dearly loved my Mother.
From this background and the transformation of our United States toward a more Sovietized government which intrudes ever more into citizen affairs, and being a high school teacher myself, I have often wondered what would have happened to my family if we had lived in a modern Oregon progressive community today……….
There is no doubt in my mind at all, that my Mother would have been arrested if “Oregon authorities” had discovered the ’discipline techniques’ she applied against me until I was about 13.
In today’s world of such spoiled, narcissistic children of so many ages 5-55, I might have even called 911 at age 13 and sntiched as did the Kozlov boy. But I do not blame him. I blame the do-gooders of the Progressive State of Oregon for the atrocity of jailing these parents, destroying this family and most likely ruining the lives of the children as well as the parents all of whom the State of Oregon has punished. One also wonders if the young Koslov when he grows up some, will ever forgive himself for what he did.
(I wonder what would have been the Oregon decree of punishment if these parents had been MUSLIM…..even Jewish.)
There is no doubt the family which raised me was made semi-dysfunctional, made so by my mother’s hysterical malady. I had only one sister, still alive, and the only other person in the world who really knew what life with ‘mother’ was really like. She paid a price as well but from verbal not physical extremes. Plus I was a much stronger person than my sister. She’d wilt. I stood up…..which increased the number of my welts.
Brutal as she was, she terrorized me to be ‘good’. “God”, she told me, “sees and knows everything”, thereby infecting my conscience.
That idea did impress me.
“What if authorities had taken my sister and me away from her” I have thought a thousand times and discussed it twice with my sister.
We both agreed and I have always agreed, we would have been lost, ruined unless we would have been taken away before we were four or so. For good or bad, we had bonded as a family……as we were also a part of my parents’ large extended families who were loving, happy people quite shy on the cruelty.
My teachers first through fifth grade knew I was lonely and allowed me to hang around their rooms to read maps and National Georgraphics 1921-37 after school. As I have written about my education previously, I loved these old maids. They knew so much information. I wanted to know as much as they did. I was so lucky to have lived in the time I had lived. I knew it at the time as well, even though I never wanted to go home.
I had resentments and anger both of which have haunted from time to time. But that old lady gave me a lot of strength…..and despite the occasional pain which still endures, she makes me smile everytime I think and write about her. It is very difficult not to love ones own Mother. I tried, but it didn’t work out very well.
What would have happened to me if the State had taken her away from me when I was four, seven, eight, or twelve? By 14 she could see that I was bigger and by this time she was working full time. I went off exploring the world on my own….usually at school or in a library or riding around the Twin Cities on the street cars. It only cost a dime, and if I worked the system right, I could get off to explore another neighborhood or two on the same dime by asking for a transfer.
My American world was safe and kind then. It was civil. I even hitch hiked just like all the other guys did.
The State does have a responsibility to protect children from danger. The State should be duty bound to protect the human family as the unit by which we humans learn to behave humanly……more as a guide than as a Stalinist police state.
Who will punish these Oregon Stalinists for destroying this family?